fix(ssr): handle parallel hookNodeResolve

[bluwy]

Description

hookNodeResolve is called in an async nodeImport which could run in parallel on multiple calls of ssrLoadModule. This PR tracks the hook and unhook accordingly when all parallel calls are finished.

Additional context

Fixes withastro/astro#4533

This was discussed before with @aleclarson at https://discord.com/channels/804011606160703521/930868117234647092/930868121118584913

No tests added since there wasn't a test before, but I feel like we should remove this hack in Vite 4, especially that we're going forward with ESM output.

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