Fix for compatibility with pyuvdata 3.0 and numpy 2.0

[bhazelton]

Description

• Fix for some imports that will be changing in pyuvdata v3.0
• Also switch from psycopg2 to psycopg3 (package is actually called psycopg) for numpy 2.0 compatibility. This requires sqlalchemy>=2.0 and python>=3.10
• Update other dependencies as needed
• Drop testing against python 3.8 & 3.9, add testing against 3.11 & 3.12

Motivation and Context

Types of changes

• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• Schema change (any change to the SQL tables)
• New feature without schema change (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Change associated with a change in redis structure
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to change)
• Version change
• Build or continuous integration change
• Other

Checklist:

Other:

• My code follows the code style of this project.
• I understand the updates required onsite (detailed in the readme) and I will make those
  changes when this is merged.
• Unit tests pass on site (This is a critical check, CI can differ from site).
• I have updated the CHANGELOG.

[codecov]

Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 98.28%. Comparing base (056628a) to head (8688691).

Additional details and impacted files

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