Make yaml node resolving optional

[PunkPun]

Partially fixes #20847

As we can't come up with a perfect solution the goal of this PR is just to make the situation much better.

• The first solution is to resolve rules as infrequently as possible with the introduction of IBeforeUpdate* interfaces.
• Second solution is to delay revolving in hopes that other update rules will fix the causes for crash

As a side effect this should make the update rules run faster as we resolve way way less yaml

[penev92]

The IBeforeUpdate* interfaces introduction feels like a no-op honestly. I don't mind it, I just feel it doesn't help anything.
The fix to the crash seems to be the reordering of the update rules, which as @abcdefg30 said is pretty ... magical.
That said, I think just reordering is fine and we should just be mindful of this with future update rules because anything else would likely be overkill and I have no better suggestion anyway.

[PunkPun]

Introduction of IBeforeUpdate* is as much of a fix as reordering. Updated the PR's description to an include an explanation

[PunkPun]

rebased

[Mailaender]

Needs a rebase.

[PunkPun]

rebased

[Mailaender]

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