build: set disable_glibcxx_debug flag

This breaks a few tests when Node is built in debug mode, because
V8 is built with `-D_GLIBCXX_DEBUG=1` and Node is built without,
which makes e.g. `std::vector` ABI-incompatible between the two.

PR-URL: #16159
Reviewed-By: James Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Franziska Hinkelmann <franziska.hinkelmann@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>

Author: addaleax

common.gypi

@@ -31,6 +31,10 @@
     # Don't bake anything extra into the snapshot.
     'v8_use_external_startup_data%': 0,
 
+    # Some STL containers (e.g. std::vector) do not preserve ABI compatibility
+    # between debug and non-debug mode.
+    'disable_glibcxx_debug': 1,
+
     # Don't use ICU data file (icudtl.dat) from V8, we use our own.
     'icu_use_data_file_flag%': 0,