Update build wheels to build both arm and x86 macos wheels

[imciner2]

Github updated the macos-latest runners to be macOS 14 and the M-series aarch64 hardware, so to build both wheels, we need to run on both the new macos-latest and the old macos-13 images.

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[imciner2]

Ok, fixed the macOS arm64 build. Apparently, CPython 3.8 is x86_64 only, and so when we build using 3.8 CMake will detect the architecture as x86_64 and therefore builds QDLDL for that instead of arm64. To fix this, we just need to set the desired architecture on the CMake command line we pass in on the appropriate platform (we do native builds).

Also, we apparently reuse the build directory for the qdldl+amd library between each wheel version build, so the architecture that is used in the first build will be the architecture used for all future builds instead of it being detected again.

[imciner2]

@vineetbansal can you give this a quick look? I think this should now be generating both arm64 and x86_64 wheels for macOS now.