Fix cuDNN compat

[kshyatt]

cuDNN 9.12 doesn't work with CUDA 11.

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✅ All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests.
✅ Project coverage is 89.76%. Comparing base (6ca192d) to head (bd37d7e).
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[kshyatt]

OK I'm going to merge this to hopefully unbreak the builds. We can always revert it later.

[vchuravy]

Ah yes classic semantic versioning...

Thanks @kshyatt

[kshyatt]

@vchuravy should we now tag a new version of cuDNN to protect people, then we can reloosen the bound?

[kshyatt]

Or rather, we should tag a new version after #2855 is merged...

[vchuravy]

We might also have to go I to the registry and fix the information there?

[kshyatt]

You mean for the current version of cuDNN?

[maleadt]

Also need to do the same for cuTENSOR, which has a loose bound on its JLL too.