refactor: optimize test env and groups tests

[kirrg001]

refs 147561

Advantages:

• all tests run on one machine - we are no longer dependent of having to start multiple instances to achieve 10min test run

• tests are stopped as soon as one group fails

• we can skip certain groups if a PR only has touched a certain area e.g. skip frameworks if PR only touched the database area

• global solution for other build CI tools such as GH actions and Tekton

• tidy up the test env

• fix skipping groups

• enable skipped tests

• reduce aws lambda runtime

• reduce aws v3 runtime

• other node.js versions

• esm build

• refactor ProcessControls to be used in the before - it slows down the run so much!!!!

• coverage build

• fix mocha reporters

• reduce flaky tests

Rules

• only run test groups based on file changes on pull requests and on main by default
• run night builds for all tests and all node.js versions