fix: [cherry-pick] exclude insertData before growing checkpoint

[congqixia]

Cherry-pick from master
pr: #29558
See also: #29556
Refine exclude segment function signature
Add exclude growing before checkpoint logic

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Attention: 4 lines in your changes are missing coverage. Please review.

Comparison is base (687eb39) 82.15% compared to head (95ab0d7) 82.14%.
Report is 3 commits behind head on 2.3.

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[weiliu1031]

/lgtm