use new update_called from metrics

[matsumotosan]

What does this PR do?

Must be fixed for Lightning-AI/torchmetrics#2141 to pass

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📚 Documentation preview 📚: https://pytorch-lightning--18714.org.readthedocs.build/en/18714/

[ishandutta0098]

I have added the steps for using the torchmetrics version to determine whether to use the public property or the private property

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Codecov Report

Merging #18714 (f326ff1) into master (77eef8a) will decrease coverage by 7%.
Report is 1 commits behind head on master.
The diff coverage is 100%.

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