Sort Merge Join is extremely slow on LeftAnti joins

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I'm testing TPCDS Q69 correctness issues with Comet(apache/datafusion-comet#2667) and found the Q69 which contains multiple anti joins performs way worse comparing to hash join

Modified query

select
  cd_gender,
  cd_marital_status,
  cd_education_status,
  count(*) cnt1,
  cd_purchase_estimate,
  count(*) cnt2,
  cd_credit_rating,
  count(*) cnt3
 from
  customer c,customer_address ca,customer_demographics
 where
  c.c_current_addr_sk = ca.ca_address_sk and
  ca_state in ('IN','VA','MS') and
  cd_demo_sk = c.c_current_cdemo_sk and
  exists (select *
          from store_sales,date_dim
          where c.c_customer_sk = ss_customer_sk and
                ss_sold_date_sk = d_date_sk and
                d_year = 2002 and
                d_moy between 2 and 2+2)   and (not exists (select *
            from web_sales,date_dim
            where c.c_customer_sk = ws_bill_customer_sk and
                  ws_sold_date_sk = d_date_sk and
                  d_year = 2002 and
                  d_moy between 2 and 2+2))
 group by cd_gender,
          cd_marital_status,
          cd_education_status,
          cd_purchase_estimate, cd_credit_rating order by 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8;

HJ Elapsed 9.879 seconds.
SMJ Elapsed 59.865 seconds.

Also it is looks like to be a reason for apache/datafusion-comet#901

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