[Improvement][Dao] SQL optimization - check exist

[Tandoy]

Describe the question
As report by #5061, we need to optimize the sql.

What are the current deficiencies and the benefits of improvement
Improve the performance about check some exist with cleaner method

Which version of DolphinScheduler:
-[dev]

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