[enhancement](memtracker) Fix MemTrackerLimiter lifecycle hidden risks

[xinyiZzz]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #11375

Problem Summary:

1. Change MemTrackerLimit to shared_ptr to avoid possible life cycle risks. This is no longer a performance problem, because the number of switching MemTrackerLimit in thread local is greatly reduced.

2. Fix MemTrackerTaskPool hidden core dump

3. Print stack trace when Memory exceeds limit

Checklist(Required)

1. Does it affect the original behavior:
   • Yes
   • No
   • I don't know
2. Has unit tests been added:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
3. Has document been added or modified:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
4. Does it need to update dependencies:
   • Yes
   • No
5. Are there any changes that cannot be rolled back:
   • Yes
   • No

Further comments

If this is a relatively large or complex change, kick off the discussion at dev@doris.apache.org by explaining why you chose the solution you did and what alternatives you considered, etc...

[yiguolei]

LGTM