branch-3.1: [refactor](load) refactor wait logic after quorum success #53884

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Cherry-picked from #53884

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run buildall

[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 32431 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit dc64c317d7ff8a9087126e0d5d345111c65f46ad, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17610	5793	5744	5744
q2	2082	280	162	162
q3	10486	1218	725	725
q4	10288	854	447	447
q5	9192	2344	2089	2089
q6	186	165	130	130
q7	896	736	613	613
q8	9332	1380	1134	1134
q9	5199	4835	4817	4817
q10	6751	2272	1843	1843
q11	475	280	259	259
q12	331	352	217	217
q13	17772	3604	3019	3019
q14	232	226	209	209
q15	527	472	457	457
q16	412	436	371	371
q17	583	852	359	359
q18	6913	6190	6235	6190
q19	1214	956	552	552
q20	325	347	198	198
q21	2903	2141	1934	1934
q22	1080	1019	962	962
Total cold run time: 104789 ms
Total hot run time: 32431 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	5908	5909	5963	5909
q2	244	334	239	239
q3	2304	2713	2350	2350
q4	1436	1836	1351	1351
q5	4511	4973	5005	4973
q6	167	162	132	132
q7	2074	1985	1854	1854
q8	2578	2816	2666	2666
q9	7297	7256	7150	7150
q10	3032	3372	2781	2781
q11	567	502	494	494
q12	718	773	634	634
q13	3414	3825	3159	3159
q14	286	309	290	290
q15	539	473	457	457
q16	454	503	442	442
q17	1217	1729	1249	1249
q18	7374	7328	7181	7181
q19	818	1167	1087	1087
q20	1990	2043	1891	1891
q21	5411	5000	4829	4829
q22	1110	1048	984	984
Total cold run time: 53449 ms
Total hot run time: 52102 ms

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 197091 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit dc64c317d7ff8a9087126e0d5d345111c65f46ad, data reload: false

query1	1284	925	877	877
query2	6242	2029	1995	1995
query3	10910	4445	4652	4445
query4	33383	23599	23494	23494
query5	3677	623	456	456
query6	276	201	169	169
query7	3986	497	316	316
query8	286	246	225	225
query9	9515	2608	2595	2595
query10	482	325	269	269
query11	18011	15246	15287	15246
query12	168	103	102	102
query13	1578	537	443	443
query14	9821	6775	7270	6775
query15	245	204	185	185
query16	8093	680	528	528
query17	1592	776	598	598
query18	2142	424	319	319
query19	207	197	168	168
query20	130	114	111	111
query21	202	127	108	108
query22	4520	4619	4394	4394
query23	34806	34271	34587	34271
query24	7414	2732	2794	2732
query25	526	494	447	447
query26	1151	288	171	171
query27	2195	480	359	359
query28	5626	2219	2161	2161
query29	789	590	464	464
query30	251	195	160	160
query31	983	909	858	858
query32	90	64	84	64
query33	500	365	310	310
query34	762	851	517	517
query35	778	814	730	730
query36	1031	1085	968	968
query37	109	94	65	65
query38	4014	4038	4055	4038
query39	1525	1512	1459	1459
query40	217	118	103	103
query41	49	50	50	50
query42	143	114	107	107
query43	537	529	511	511
query44	1354	825	813	813
query45	191	187	175	175
query46	910	1082	695	695
query47	1980	1995	1906	1906
query48	422	417	349	349
query49	767	507	414	414
query50	721	698	444	444
query51	7340	7404	7087	7087
query52	102	103	101	101
query53	253	269	187	187
query54	552	567	472	472
query55	81	80	82	80
query56	266	309	250	250
query57	1262	1261	1210	1210
query58	241	226	220	220
query59	3115	3287	3074	3074
query60	295	284	271	271
query61	142	124	121	121
query62	783	751	689	689
query63	234	202	198	198
query64	4497	1006	633	633
query65	3390	3278	3274	3274
query66	1076	419	313	313
query67	15998	15633	15487	15487
query68	6457	851	554	554
query69	494	305	271	271
query70	1210	1152	1114	1114
query71	399	308	263	263
query72	5717	3788	3849	3788
query73	641	766	354	354
query74	10548	9337	9045	9045
query75	3176	3152	2698	2698
query76	3090	1173	777	777
query77	481	393	283	283
query78	10290	10401	9615	9615
query79	3572	879	597	597
query80	677	529	441	441
query81	509	254	220	220
query82	653	124	94	94
query83	162	164	146	146
query84	247	101	77	77
query85	789	374	305	305
query86	399	313	314	313
query87	4353	4366	4275	4275
query88	5042	2412	2377	2377
query89	424	332	303	303
query90	1798	191	190	190
query91	142	151	109	109
query92	63	60	53	53
query93	2202	890	540	540
query94	690	410	261	261
query95	341	281	270	270
query96	493	619	285	285
query97	3141	3235	3164	3164
query98	225	208	200	200
query99	1634	1445	1283	1283
Total cold run time: 296277 ms
Total hot run time: 197091 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 29.07 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit dc64c317d7ff8a9087126e0d5d345111c65f46ad, data reload: false

query1	0.03	0.02	0.03
query2	0.06	0.03	0.04
query3	0.23	0.07	0.07
query4	1.62	0.10	0.10
query5	0.51	0.50	0.49
query6	1.14	0.73	0.73
query7	0.02	0.02	0.02
query8	0.04	0.03	0.04
query9	0.57	0.50	0.50
query10	0.56	0.55	0.55
query11	0.14	0.10	0.10
query12	0.13	0.11	0.11
query13	0.61	0.59	0.60
query14	0.77	0.79	0.79
query15	0.83	0.83	0.83
query16	0.39	0.42	0.39
query17	1.05	1.02	1.06
query18	0.24	0.22	0.22
query19	1.88	1.81	1.83
query20	0.01	0.01	0.01
query21	15.39	0.89	0.60
query22	0.74	0.75	0.74
query23	15.07	1.46	0.57
query24	3.76	1.69	1.04
query25	0.17	0.14	0.06
query26	0.25	0.15	0.15
query27	0.06	0.05	0.04
query28	14.35	1.03	0.44
query29	12.58	3.99	3.27
query30	0.25	0.09	0.06
query31	2.80	0.60	0.38
query32	3.23	0.53	0.46
query33	3.00	2.99	3.03
query34	16.46	5.19	4.51
query35	4.59	4.57	4.58
query36	0.65	0.48	0.48
query37	0.09	0.06	0.06
query38	0.04	0.03	0.04
query39	0.04	0.02	0.02
query40	0.16	0.14	0.13
query41	0.08	0.03	0.02
query42	0.03	0.03	0.02
query43	0.03	0.03	0.02
Total cold run time: 104.65 s
Total hot run time: 29.07 s