align CPP Table API with Java/Rust builder pattern

[fresh-borzoni]

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Description

expose smth like this:

  auto upsert = table.NewUpsert();
  upsert.WithTargetColumns({"a", "b"});
  upsert.CreateWriter(writer);

  auto append = table.NewAppend();
  append.CreateWriter(writer);

  auto lookup = table.NewLookup();
  lookup.CreateLookuper(lookuper);

Willingness to contribute

• I'm willing to submit a PR!