chore(NODE-3849)!: update dependencies and sync tooling

[nbbeeken]

Description

What is changing?

• Dependency updates:

 bl                       // removed
 node-addon-api           ^4.1.0  →   ^4.3.0
 prebuild-install          6.1.2  →    7.0.1  // major, needed, drops support for node 10
 bson                     ^4.4.0  →   ^4.6.1
 chai                     ^4.3.4  →   ^4.3.6
 clang-format             ^1.5.0  →   ^1.6.0
 eslint                  ^4.19.1  →   ^8.8.0  // major, we use a version of node that can run this
 eslint-plugin-prettier   ^2.7.0  →   ^4.0.0  // major, tooling sync 
 jsdoc-to-markdown        ^5.0.3  →   ^7.1.1  // major, ran the docs gen and it still works
 mocha                    ^4.1.0  →   ^9.2.0  // major, tooling sync
 mongodb                  ^3.6.9  →   ^4.3.1  // We'll now use this version in CI by default
 node-gyp                 ^5.1.1  →   ^8.4.1  // major, drops python2 support, node 12+
 prebuild                ^10.0.1  →  ^11.0.2  // major
 prettier                ^1.19.1  →   ^2.5.1  // major, does cause reformatting, tooling sync
 sinon                    ^4.5.0  →  ^13.0.1  // major, tooling sync
 sinon-chai               ^3.6.0  →   ^3.7.0
 standard-version         ^9.3.0  →   ^9.3.2
 tar                      ^6.1.0  →  ^6.1.11

This tooling sync and updates change brings:

• mocha, eslint, prettier configs
• update nvm and windows-nvm
• bring in our test reporter for EVG, w/ skipReason functionality
• run lint in CI
• move index.js into the lib folder (aligned with driver, less special arguments for linter)
• Use a copy of our BufferPool implementation from the driver, I brought the tests with it

There is no Bug fix:

• stateMachine.js typo-ed localhost (my mistake, it was correct)

What is the motivation for this change?

• We want to have a consistent development environment across our packages.
• We want to bring in major version bumps of our dependencies before making the major release

Double check the following

• Ran npm run check:lint script
• Self-review completed using the steps outlined here
• PR title follows the correct format: <type>(NODE-xxxx)<!>: <description>
• Changes are covered by tests
• New TODOs have a related JIRA ticket - need to make ticket stateMachine.js:239

[nbbeeken]

Our read method will accomplish the same thing in one call, returning a new copy of the bytes and dropping them from the underlying bufferpool.

[dariakp]

Just some questions here

[dariakp]

LGTM, but maybe we should get at least one more person from the team to review before we merge