Improve daemon status output and harden cross-platform status updates

[LIU9293]

Summary

• Simplify ode status to daemon-focused output only, including explicit running/not-running guidance and pending upgrade state.
• Add settings-launcher diagnostics for Slack/Lark/Discord, add Discord thread-title sync from live status/session title updates, and prevent duplicate Discord runtime startups with a single in-flight start lock.
• Handle IM update rate limits more safely by tracking 429 update failures, logging warnings, and posting final result messages as new messages instead of editing a previously rate-limited status message.
• Centralize status message frequency settings (5s/8s/12s, default 5s) in shared config and reuse the same options/parsing across config, Slack, Discord, and Web settings UI.
• Bump project version from 0.0.87 to 0.0.88.

Validation

• bun test packages/core/test/request-runner.test.ts
• bun test packages/core/test/session-title.test.ts
• bun test packages/ims/discord/api.test.ts
• bun test packages/ims/slack/message-router.test.ts