Update from distutils to setuptools

[mwestphall]

Distutils has been deprecated since 2020 and was finally removed in Python 3.12. Per several online resources, we need to:

• Replace distutils with setuptools
• Replace python setup.py install with pip install .
• Add setuptools and wheel as buildDependencies to stop pip from trying to download them when doing a setuptools-based install

[matyasselmeci]

Don't delete pyproject.toml from the repo because that messes up the parameters for the pre-commit hook. Instead, modify the spec file to delete it before you run pip install.