Prevent autoscrolling of focused collection elements when focus isn't in the non virtualized collection

[LFDanLu]

Closes #4132

✅ Pull Request Checklist:

• Included link to corresponding React Spectrum GitHub Issue.
• Added/updated unit tests and storybook for this change (for new code or code which already has tests).
• Filled out test instructions.
• Updated documentation (if it already exists for this component).
• Looked at the Accessibility Practices for this feature - Aria Practices

📝 Test Instructions:

Go to the Tabs docs. Confirm the page doesn't automatically scroll to the bottom of the page.
Sanity check non-virtualized collection components (aka useSelect story or any of the hooks components that don't have virtualized lists)

🧢 Your Project:

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[majornista]

Also verified using the Storybook Tabs examples with scrolling set to true:

• https://reactspectrum.blob.core.windows.net/reactspectrum/948f668f06db5b422af59ada03542b279ec3f163/storybook/index.html?path=/story/tabs--default&providerSwitcher-express=false&scrolling=true

Notice how the Tabs are not scrolled into view for each Storybook example with scrolling=true.

For comparison here is the same example using the v3.25.0 release:

• https://reactspectrum.blob.core.windows.net/reactspectrum/a0efee84aa178cb1a202951dfd6d8de02b292307/storybook/index.html?path=/story/tabs--default&providerSwitcher-express=false&scrolling=true

Notice how the Tabs are scrolled into view for each Storybook example with scrolling=true.

[reidbarber]

LGTM, verified behavior in docs and storybook

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## API Changes

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