[To dev/1.3] Reconcile actual aligned TVList memory usage (#18330)

[Caideyipi]

Description

Backport of #18330 (9e909d3ce26002507efd7a72cc53e7bf40c145bc) to dev/1.3.

Changes

• Remove unconditional aligned bitmap reservation and account for bitmap references and objects only when they are materialized.
• Track actual aligned TVList RAM with an O(1) lookup.
• Reconcile estimated and actual aligned TVList RAM after row, rows, and tablet writes, including mixed-alignment batches and sorted TVLists.
• Add the explicit-RAM TVList.RamInfo constructor needed by this backport.

dev/1.3 adaptation

dev/1.3 retains eager value primitive-array allocation, so this backport applies the actual bitmap accounting and post-write reconciliation without importing master's lazy value-array model. The master-only IoTDBAlignedTVListLazyAllocationIT was omitted because its supporting implementation and test do not exist on this branch. The performance test was adapted to the dev/1.3 APIs.

Verification

mvn -o -nsu spotless:apply -pl iotdb-core/datanode
mvn -o -nsu -pl iotdb-core/datanode -DskipTests compile
mvn -o -nsu -pl iotdb-core/datanode surefire:test '-Dtest=AlignedTVListTest,TsFileProcessorTest,AlignedBitmapMemoryAccountingPerformanceTest'

Result: 27 tests run, 0 failures, 0 errors, and 1 expected skip for the default-disabled performance test.

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This PR has:

• been self-reviewed.
• added comments explaining the intent of the accounting and reconciliation logic.
• added or updated unit tests to cover the backported code paths.

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Key changed/added classes

• AlignedTVList: actual bitmap RAM tracking and constant-time RAM lookup.
• TsFileProcessor: post-write aligned RAM reconciliation.
• TVList.RamInfo: explicit actual-RAM construction for reconciliation.
• AlignedBitmapMemoryAccountingPerformanceTest: opt-in reconciliation overhead benchmark.