release-22.2: kvserver: revert #98150

[blathers-crl]

Backport 2/2 commits from #99643 on behalf of @tbg.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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This reverts #98150 because we think it introduced a problem that was detected
via the replicate/wide roachtest¹. It seems that for reasons still unknown
we do rely on the periodic gossip trigger on liveness lease extensions.

Touches #99268.
Touches #97966.
Closes #99268.
Touches #98945.

Tracked in #99652.

Epic: none
Release note: None

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Release justification: critical bug fix.

Footnotes

1. roachtest: replicate/wide failed #99268 (comment) ↩

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