chore: update clap deprecations

[vaind]

This fixes the 246 warnings produced by cargo check --features clap/deprecated in order to be able to update to clap v4.

• value_of() with get_one()
• is_present() with contains_id()
• values_of() with get_many()
• validator() with value_parser()
• multiple_occurrences() with action(ArgAction::Append)
• possible_values() with PossibleValueParser
• Arg::with_name with Arg::new

[kamilogorek]

That's quite a lot of changes, but I hope our integration tests covered enough cases to make us confident merging it 👀