Add debug diagnostics for dropped server sessions (3110e1f)
ET_DEBUG=1 now gives etserver a durable machine-local log destination,
non-silent logging, and default verbosity 2. Operators can also use
ET_LOGDIR and ET_VERBOSE when CLI or INI settings do not override them.
Server diagnostics now record client accept/reject reasons, reconnect and
recovery outcomes, terminal disconnects, and session removal, making long-lived
session drops diagnosable from the server host. Client debug logs omit session
credentials, malformed handshakes are bounded by a five-second deadline and
128-connection pre-auth capacity, and completed connection handlers no longer
accumulate after rapid failed handshakes.